"The life I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another, until who knows where the trembling stops or in what far place my touch will be felt. "


Personal social networks (5th post): the frequency of conflict

March 11, 2017

Personal social networks are hugely important for our health & wellbeing, as I've underlined in the first of this six post sequence - "Personal social networks (1st post): Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model".  However our personal networks are also regularly affected by conflicts, especially with those we're close to.  It's not a surprise - if you're very close to someone, it's likely you'll sometimes step on each other's toes.  Here are a set of four slides that illustrate this point:

And relationships conflicts have significant effects - for example, see in the slide below how important interpersonal events are in triggering depression:

... and it's no accident that the widely supported treatment Interpersonal psychotherapy treats conflict as one of its major areas of focus:

And Couples Work as well has plenty to say on how we might helpfully approach conflict:

Also very relevant here are the series of posts "Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions", "Conflict: not too much, not too little - and how to make it constructive", "Conflict: not too much, not too little - the importance of assertiveness in close relationships", "Conflict: not too much, not too little - when to get real & problem solve in close relationshipsand "Conflict: not too much, not too little - insights from game theory".