"The genius of Tulku Urgyen was that he could point out the nature of mind with precision and matter-of-factness of teaching a person how to thread a needle and could get an ordinary meditator like me to recognize that consciousness is intrinsically free of self ... I came to Tulku Urgyen yearning for the experience of self-transcendence, and in a few minutes he showed me I had no self to transcend ... Tulku Urgyen simply handed me the ability to cut through the illusion of the self directly, even in ordinary states of consciousness.  This instruction was, without question, the most important thing I have ever been explicitly taught by another human being.  It has given me a way to escape the usual tides of psychological suffering - fear, anger, shame - in an instant. "


Mindful self-compassion residential: last morning, reviewing & appreciating

13th May 2017

The first evening of this residential was back on Tuesday and it's now Saturday morning. I've already written an initial post "Mindful self-compassion residential: first morning, doubts & overview". So how am I feeling about the workshop now after three full days ... with just one to go? Happy, touched, …

Mindful self-compassion residential: first morning, doubts & overview

10th May 2017

Well this is interesting. Here we are - Catero, my wife, and I - at the start of a five day workshop on "Mindful self-compassion" run by Chris Germer & Christine Brahler at Drangshlid, Eyjafjoll on the south coast of Iceland. We flew into Reykjavik yesterday from Scotland, met up …

Paired meditation deepens interpersonal connection: how to go about it

6th May 2017

Yesterday I wrote the blog post "Paired meditation deepens interpersonal connection: Tania Singer's wonderful ReSource project" which introduced & overviewed the recent, very impressive ReSource Project. I also discussed the associated JAMA Psychiatry research paper "Effects of contemplative dyads on engagement and perceived social connectedness over nine months of mental …

Paired meditation deepens interpersonal connection: Tania Singer's wonderful ReSource project

5th May 2017

Yesterday I was skimming through the JAMA Psychiatry journal and I got hijacked by Kok & Singer's recent article "Effects of contemplative dyads on engagement and perceived social connectedness over nine months of mental training: a randomized controlled trial". The abstract reads - "Importance Loneliness is a risk factor for …

Recent research: articles from the winter journals

28th March 2017

I read a lot of research. When I find an article of particular interest I download it to my bibliographic database - Endnote - which currently contains close to 25,000 abstracts. I also regularly tweet about emerging research, so following me on Twitter, Facebook or Google+ (click on the relevant …

Personal social networks (6th post): how can we look after our relationships better?

12th March 2017

I have recently written a series of blog posts about relationships - "Personal social networks (1st post): Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model", "Personal social networks (2nd post): the sympathy group & the full active network", "Personal social networks (3rd post): assessing how we're doing", "Personal social networks (4th post): birds of a …

Personal social networks (5th post): the frequency of conflict

11th March 2017

Personal social networks are hugely important for our health & wellbeing, as I've underlined in the first of this six post sequence - "Personal social networks (1st post): Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model". However our personal networks are also regularly affected by conflicts, especially with those we're close to. It's not a …

Personal social networks (4th post): birds of a feather flock together

10th March 2017

I've recently written three blog posts about relationships - "Personal social networks (1st post): Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model", "Personal social networks (2nd post): the sympathy group & the full active network" and "Personal social networks (3rd post): assessing how we're doing". Towards the end of the second of these posts I …

Personal social networks (3rd post): assessing how we're doing

8th March 2017

If you'd like to clarify and potentially look after your personal social network better, a good place to start is to chart it. You can download a simple blank chart here either in Word doc or PDF format. Filling in the whole "Personal community map" can take a good hour …